Recently I was talking with a friend of mine who is a well known athlete.  He was looking rather angry when I saw him, so I asked what was going on.  He told me he was angry because he is paying his baby’s mama $30,000 a month, and she won’t let him see his son.  I just couldn’t believe it.  This child support thing is getting out of hand.  Now before I get on my soap box and start preaching about the injustices of the family court system, let me just stop right there.  That is not what this blog is about.  See, my friend said to me, “Don, if she comes up missing, I didn’t do it!” 

So men, how do we deal with BMD!  First we must start with Prayer.  1 John 1:9 says if we confess our sins, God is faithful to forgive us and cleanse us.  See we must realize that the only reason we have BMD, is because of our sin.  Then after we confess we need to pray for the childs mother.  One of the hardest things to admit is that as evil as she may be, Jesus died for her too.

After prayer, we need lots of patience.  It is our nature as men to retaliate when we are attacked.  James 1:19 says, Be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry.  Why, verse 20 says, because mans anger does not bring about a righteous life.  When we are angry, nothing good can come from it.

 Next it will take perseverance.  Most baby mama’s are using the child as a pawn to get back at the fathers for the pain that they themselves feel.  Romans 12 gives a lot of instruction in this area of how to persevere.  Specifically verse 18, if it is possible, as much as depends on you, live peaceabley with all people.

Many men find that there is truth to the statement, hell has no furry like a womans scorn, that is why if we are dealing with BMD, we need to also try to stay positive.  Nothing good can come of bad mouthing your ex in front of or to your child.  Our words come directly from our thought life.  Philippians 4:8 tells us to think about only what is true, noble, right, pure, lovely, admirable and praise worthy.  Thinking of ways to tear down your ex is a complete waiste of time.

Finally, it takes persistence when dealing with baby mama drama.  Why?  Because it is easy to throw up our hands and say I’ve had it.  If we do this, our children will end up suffering the most.  Exodus 20:5 says the sins of the father are passed to the third and the fourth generation.  But verse 6 says, the blessings of the father is to a thousand generations.

In the end the main verse of scripture that comes to mind, is the same one I offered my friend going through this difficult situation;  Galatians 6:9 Do not grow weary in well doing, because you will reap a harvest if you do not give up.

February 1, 2009 marked the forty-third Super Bowl that was held in Tampa, Florida between the Pittsburg Steelers and Arizona Cardinals.  I must admit I was rooting for the Cardinals, since my buddy Kurt Warner resurrected his career and lead his team all the way to the Super Bowl.  Unfortunately they did not win, but what a tremendous testimony of perseverance.

So Yannette and I spent the week in Tampa meeting many influential people that might want to partner with us on our quest to equip the strong, encourage the weak and expose the lost to the gospel of Jesus Christ.  While in Tampa we attended a host of celebrity events like, the Super Bowl Gospel Celebration, Athletes in Action Super Bowl Breakfast, the ESPN party, the NFL Players party, and the P-Diddy Super Bowl Bash.     By the way, if any of that offends you in anyway, you might be over-saved!

When we got back to our home town we had tons of people ask us, how was it?  We told them it isn’t all that it is cracked up to be.  What!  Are you kidding me?  Was the response of many.  You see one thing was clearly evident during our week in Tampa, was that  the Super Bowl brings out Super Sinners. 

Now before you get upset and start calling me a Pharisee, let me say this.  I am in no way judging anyone who was at the Super Bowl, because I used to be a Super sinnner also.  But in 1999 I confessed my sin and asked Jesus to forgive me, cleanse me and purify me. I am still a sinner, the only difference is that I have been saved by His grace. 

While in Tampa for the Super Bowl, a place many folks would have killed to be able to experience, I felt an overwhelming since of sorrow for those who were there just looking for ways to fill the enormous void that is in their lives.  Many were trying to drown out the misery that marks their lives daily with different substances, not realizing that only a relationship with the King of kings and the Lord of lords will fill that void.

No matter who you are, what color you are, how much money you have or what title you hold, life will always be miserable without entering into a relationship with Jesus Christ.